make unpause() decrease susp_count, as it shouldn't be decreased

 make unpause() decrease susp_count, as it shouldn't be decreased
 if the process was REVIVING. (susp_count doesn't count those
 processes.) this together with dev_io SELECT suspend side effect
 for asynch. character devices solves the hanging pipe bug. or
 at last vastly improves it.

 added sanity checks, turned off by default.

 made the {NOT_,}{SUSPENDING,REVIVING} constants weirder to
 help sanity checking.